You’ve just had baby number 1, you haven’t been out the house in months, when you’re finally let free there’s 5 key things that you may feel ….
1. Mum Guilt
It’s been an eternity since you last went out, you’re finally allowed to roam free and you spend the entire night feeling guilty.
Guilt because you’ve left them at home. Guilty for their dad or career because they’re not used to having them for such a prolonged time and what if baby is a little sod and makes their evening a nightmare?!
Guilty for the 1 alcoholic drink you’re about to consume whilst breastfeeding.
Guilty for feeling happy about going out without them….
2. Mum anxiety
If the guilt subsides for a moment it only momentarily makes way for anxiety – anxious about what to wear, will that black dress fit?
Will the black dress be too dressy?
Will jeans be too understated? What IS the thing to wear these days?
Anxious about whether baby will behave, anxious about whether hubby will behave!!
Anxious about whether there’s enough milk stocks / food / water for 3 hours whilst you’re out (of course there is!!).
The constant checking of the texts to see if they’ve called ensues – glancing at the notifications to see if you have a message stating “get home now I’ve set the house on fire and the baby is screaming because I spilt all your precious gold (ahem I mean breastmilk) on the floor!” But actually the text just reads “hope you’re having fun, all fine here”
3. The “Why did I wear heels / can I get in my pjs yet?”
You’ve spent weeks dreaming of those heels you’ve bought especially for this night out, the outfit is planned and all ironed and ready to go and you stroll out of the house trying to walk in said shoes and breathing in from the too tight skinny jeans cutting into your mum tum.
It’s 30 minutes into the meal and you’re already daydreaming over your crab fishcake about wearing your elasticated waist cosy pjs and kicking those heels off in favour of a pair of monster feet slippers.
4. “Ooh I’d love a brew right now”
You go out with the girls – you’re all sipping fancy cocktails, but deep down you’re thinking – “ooh I’d love a brew right now”.
That is all.
5. Fat / Ugly / Tubby / Mumsy
So you leave the house feeling 1,000,000 dollars – heels are on, actual makeup on and hair is dried and styled (instead of the usual mum bun) then you walk into the restaurant and immediately spy a 20 year old, 6 stone, model walk past and boom! Mumsy, frumpy, low self esteem comes and smacks you clear in the face like a train which screams – ‘no you’re not young, free, single and hot anymore – you’re a married, 30 something mum with size 12 jeans on and a stretch marked jelly belly and you will never look good in a bodycon dress ever again’.
Can you relate to these thoughts? If you have your new mum thoughts then please feel free to comment and share 🙂