Is there ever a right time for a second?

It’s Christmas Day, it’s 2:30am, I’ve been wide awake for the past hour unable to sleep. I’m 33 but yet seems tonight I’m 8 years old again, hyperactive on an overdose of sugar and buffet food and eagerly anticipating the arrival of Father Christmas down the chimney.

Actually for some bizarre reason I’m wide awake not excited for Santa, but, debating in my mind when the right time comes for a second baby!

Lately a few friends have moved onto baby number 2, I follow a fair few people on Instagram who have also ventured into the world of a second baby and it’s gotten me thinking, when IS the right time for another?

On my Christmas party this year I was plagued with the reoccurring question from colleagues and I simply couldn’t answer.

So here I am at 2:30am on Christmas thinking about it. I know if I had another I seriously would not want to repeat the pregnancy and birth experience from the first. I think it is those points that are acting as major contraceptive at the moment.

Then secondly comes my career. When I had Max I seriously felt like I’d chosen my baby over my career and purposefully put my job on hold to have a family. Excellent choice at the time but now I feel miles behind my male counterparts having had a year off. I think if I got pregnant again it would be met with a lot of negative vibes at work. I’d be worrying sick about my career and what life would look like after number 2 for me career wise.

Thirdly there’s the finances – now I have a good job, my husband does ok, but with baby number 1 we managed to save a chunk of cash so I could go off and have a year off. This time, we have no savings. So how could we possibly afford for me to take a year out of work? I simply couldn’t. I think this would leave me feeling a bit sad inside.

So having reviewed points 1-3 above I think it’s safe to say I’m not ready, but those points will always exist.

  1. Is it normal to just have one baby?
  2. Why do I feel such immense pressure to do it again?
  3. How will baby 2 make me feel?

Really keen to get thoughts and comments!

Rebecca

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5 Tips for starting a ‘Mum Blog’ 

Many of you may be able to relate to the negativity from non-bloggers about the reasons why I have an online blog. They simply raise their eyebrows at me as if to say “what is the point” or say things like “how do you find the time?!”. The simple answer is that my journey as a parent is being documented for me, my family and friends to look over in years to come, many a feeling and thought has been documented where it may have been lost without be blog. I do find the time, because quite simply put – I enjoy it,  I am an organised person by nature and sitting on my butt and doing nothing for 12 months of my maternity leave would never have worked for me. I always need something to keep my brain functioning, so why not start a blog!

Here are my 5 tips for anyone out there considering starting up a parenting blog:-

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The Baby Show Haul

The Baby Show is an event fairly local to where we live in the midlands, I visited for the first time when I was pregnant with Nandy and didn’t purchase much as I felt completely inundated with choice and products which I wasn’t sure I would need.


This year was somewhat different and I visited with a more open mind as to the products which we use and a list of things we needed to buy.

Firstly we went off to see the lovely Kiera at Mama designs. We went last year specifically to buy one of her gorgeous mint and grey cellular blankets – it was a must for us to return to her stand again and purchase one of her gorgeous babasacs with the mono pineapple print on it!! We bagged this at a special show price, however, it has to be said that the normal price is still really competitive as the quality is superb and so so stylish!!!

It was then off for a quick bottom change for Nandy at the Aldi mamia changing area and they certainly didn’t disappoint! They gave us plenty of free nappy samples and whilst I waited they gave me some food samples too including pouches, snacks and even a pack of tommee tippee feeding spoons! All of which will come in extremely handy right now.

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Our “could not live without” must buys!

I don’t know about anyone else but when I discovered I was pregnant I bought the whole of the baby ailse out of excitement! I had every product going as well as a selection of other bits which it transpires I didn’t even NEED!

So after spending a day cleaning out Nandys room I decided to write a little post of those “must have” buys for life with a baby.

Now everyone has their own preferences so I must stress is important you find what works for you and your baby. Most people know that Nandy suffers from eczema so we are very limited on the products which we can use on his skin.

Below are some of the must have items which I could not have lived without these past 7 months

 

1. Lanisoh Breast pads / nipple cream and breast milk bags – Because I breastfeed I couldn’t live without these products in the early days especially.

2. Kokoso baby – coconut oil – perfect for his face as it gets so dry!

3. Vaseline – we have been using this recently to target dry skin and rash around his mouth from teething and its worked wonders!

4. Sudocream – This is our go to nappy rash cream, Nandy doesn’t really suffer from nappy rash, but when he gets sore I just slather some of this on and its gone within hours!

5. Snufflebabe products – Nandy has always been rather snuffly so these nasal drops and sprays have been a godsend as we were able to use them from an early age. We have recently started to use the rub on his baby grow to help him breathe easier at night.

6. Waterwipes – With Nandy having eczema we have to be careful about what we put on his skin and I’m so glad we always used these wipes from when he was born, they are so natural and just fantastic and don’t have perfumed nasty smell.

7. Aldi Mamia nappy bags – we used to have the nappy disposal system but the cartridges were expensive to replace so we switched to nappy bags, the Aldi ones are cheap and so effective!!

8. Dentinox products – we absolutely swear by dentinox cradle cap shampoo and its been a lifesaver for his head, for some reason I can’t seem to buy it anywhere now! Dentinox teething gel is also the best we’ve found, weve tried a number of teething gels but this one seems to work the best.

 

I would seriously recommend you do what is right for you and your baby and it takes time to find those perfect products, but you will.

I’d love to hear about your ideal products, so leave us a comment!

Rebecca

 

 

 

5 tips for Travelling light with a baby

Before I gave birth to Nandy I purchased a lovely baby bag from baby beau from very. I chose this bag because I felt it wasnt overly girly and therefore my husband could use it too without being embarrased by some of the pretty coloured ones you can buy!

When the bag arrived I soon realised why it was the perfect choice, inside the main bag was a small bag with lots of compartments and a fold out changing mat. This changing mat has literally transformed the way in which I travel with a baby!

The main bag stays in the boot of the car – including a change of clothing for any bum explosions or sick moments. Leaving me with only his nappy clutch in the base of the pram.

Now, I hasten to add that I am able to travel light because I breastfeed so there are no bottles to transport and also we are only just weaning so we also dont need bibs and food!

My husband is also a great believer that mums carry far too much ‘stuff’ to put it politely. He is quite a hands-on dad and when he attends baby groups he is simply astonished by all the mums who must be riddled with back problems!

Most carry their baby in the car seat with a baby bag (ram packed with stuff) ont heir one shoulder and a handbag on the other and its simply not necessary!

Below are my top tips on how to travel light with a small baby:

  1. Invest in a nappy clutch / nappy roll like this one:
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Nappy clutch from http://www.loveroo.co.uk

These clutches are simply wonderful, not only are you helping to support small business by purchasing handmade but you are also getting a high quality item which has been carefully considered to suit mums needs. I

…..and a nappy roll / travel clutch like this one.

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Baby beau travel clutch

 

Lets take a peak inside my nappy clutches…

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Clutch customised from Love Roo – includes a whole pack of wipes, 2 nappies, 2 nappy bags, a teether, a tude of sudocream and dentinox and a change of top

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My husband uses this nappy roll from baby beau, it has a tear away changing mat and pockets for nappies and wipes.

2. Purchase smaller sized / travel creams

Sudocream do a small sixe nappy cream in a tube which is perfect for transporting arounf (rather than using the big grey tub!) I can fit 2-3 pampers nappies size 4 in my clutch, including a pack of wet wipes, nappy bags and a muslin cloth (for any accidents).

3. Dont go out with things which are not necessary!

Why take the whole pack of nappy bags out with you when you can literally pull out one or two bags and take those? The handy clear pockets in the baby beau changing mat help me to keep these safe.

Pack only a few nappies in the nappy clutch and then eave some more in the main bag in the car for emergencies.

Do you really need 4 toys when they only use 1 at a time? Consider packing more discreet teethers like this one from foxsfelts.

Do you need 3 muslin cloths and 4 bibs? Again keep purely the essentials in the nappy clutch and then carry the rest in the main bag.

4. Have a normal handbag

I cant stress enough how much having a normal hangbag has transformed my life! I hear mums say how much they miss having a normal handbag! well have one then! I carry a modalu england designer handbag around with me and the nappy clutch inside. It makes me feel less mumsy and more like me!

5.Breastfeed (if possible).

I understand that not all of us want or choose to breastfeed our babies, but I dont think I could have bottlefed, its so much work, cleaning bottles, being organised and carrying the formula around – I actually take my hat off to bottlefeeding mummies as its actually harder!! I can be so lazy with breastfeeding, it enbales me to feed wherever and whenever I want with no prep and no mess.

Hope you’ve found this post informative, I’d appreciate any polite comments on how you find it best to travel with your little one.
Rebecca