Is there ever a right time for a second?

It’s Christmas Day, it’s 2:30am, I’ve been wide awake for the past hour unable to sleep. I’m 33 but yet seems tonight I’m 8 years old again, hyperactive on an overdose of sugar and buffet food and eagerly anticipating the arrival of Father Christmas down the chimney.

Actually for some bizarre reason I’m wide awake not excited for Santa, but, debating in my mind when the right time comes for a second baby!

Lately a few friends have moved onto baby number 2, I follow a fair few people on Instagram who have also ventured into the world of a second baby and it’s gotten me thinking, when IS the right time for another?

On my Christmas party this year I was plagued with the reoccurring question from colleagues and I simply couldn’t answer.

So here I am at 2:30am on Christmas thinking about it. I know if I had another I seriously would not want to repeat the pregnancy and birth experience from the first. I think it is those points that are acting as major contraceptive at the moment.

Then secondly comes my career. When I had Max I seriously felt like I’d chosen my baby over my career and purposefully put my job on hold to have a family. Excellent choice at the time but now I feel miles behind my male counterparts having had a year off. I think if I got pregnant again it would be met with a lot of negative vibes at work. I’d be worrying sick about my career and what life would look like after number 2 for me career wise.

Thirdly there’s the finances – now I have a good job, my husband does ok, but with baby number 1 we managed to save a chunk of cash so I could go off and have a year off. This time, we have no savings. So how could we possibly afford for me to take a year out of work? I simply couldn’t. I think this would leave me feeling a bit sad inside.

So having reviewed points 1-3 above I think it’s safe to say I’m not ready, but those points will always exist.

  1. Is it normal to just have one baby?
  2. Why do I feel such immense pressure to do it again?
  3. How will baby 2 make me feel?

Really keen to get thoughts and comments!

Rebecca

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All the feels of a working mum 

Further to my post on “the dreaded return to work” I thought it was time to write an update.

During June I have embedded myself back into work using KIT days (for those of you who are not familiar with the concept of KIT days then they are keeping in touch days, days where you can bed yourself back into work without formally ending your maternity leave)


I have used eight KIT days during June, in which time Nandy has also started nursery.

So, how does it feel I hear you cry!? I wrote in my previous blog post about the positives people shared with me on drinking a hot cup of tea and actually getting time to be a bit more “me”. The reality is quite different in my opinion. I have drunk less tea since being back and had less me time than ever before!

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The Making of I am Loved

 

Max has been fortunate to Rep for I am Loved since he was teeny tiny! Safe to say we Love being I am Loved reps! Sam is so talented and her prints and apparel is so unique, high quality and have you seen the packaging!! AMAZING!


Hi, tell us your name and a little bit about you and your family

Hey! I’m Sam, I’m 29 and I live in lovely Oxfordshire with my other half, Stuart, and our two cat babies Jess & Minnie. I’m originally from a little town in County Durham, where all of my family still live. I have a degree in fashion design and graduated around 5 years ago.

What inspired you to start your insta shop?

Most of my inspiration comes from my nieces, nephews and my little sister Millie. I want them to always know how loved they are. I think it’s so important that children grow up knowing that that they are brave, that they are fearless and that they are strong.

So I started to create prints with catchy words and slogans for children’s apparel and nursery décor and that is how I Am Loved was born.

If you had to give one piece of advice to someone thinking of setting up an insta shop / etsy what would it be?

Believe in yourself and your dream

Who do you feel inspired by on Instagram?

There are so so many people who inspire me. Especially those working mamas who are also running their own businesses like @lennieanco. I mean those women are super heroes. I struggle to look after myself and the cats along side this so hats off to all you Mamas!

Tell us a little bit more about where you want I am Loved to be in 5 years time?

I would like to be running I Am Loved full time. And would love to see the brand being sold in stores all over the world.

What’s your favourite insta purchase and why?

One of my favourite instagram purchases is my Jesus Origami Diamond from @origami_est. And I currently have a little bit of an obsession with buying prints for the house. Some of my faves are from @osotwee, @thelittlejones and @thenativestate.

As a thankyou for being a blog reader Sam is kindly offering 20% purchases using LOVED20 until Friday 28th April. 

Thanks to Sam for taking the time to answer our questions and don’t hesitate to go over to Iamloved give her a follow – you won’t regret it we promise!

Rebecca

The Making of Foxsfelts

This is a series of many blog posts around the making of some of our favourite Instagram shops. I was lucky enough to speak to Amy Ford, owner of Foxsfelts about her story. 

Hi, tell us a little about yourself and your family…

Hi! I’m Amy Ford owner of Foxsfelts, aged 32, I have two little ones Grayson 4, and Knox 3 months. I’ve been married to Ben for 10 years. 

What inspired you to start your insta shop?

I’ve always been into something creative, when I fell pregnant with Gray I began Fox’s Felts – so we are 4.5 years in the making! I found Instagram in 2015 and now it’s pretty much the only social media that I use! Grayson was my inspiration and I wanted to be able to look after him and not have to do a job I disliked so I started with needle felting mobiles which can still be found on my website today. I am now focusing on teethers – something which I began when I needed to sell smaller items to keep the business ticking over between sales of mobiles and other items. 

We began selling silicone teethers in 2015 they went mad and took over the business somewhat – so now that’s what we are focusing on!

If you had to give one piece of advice to someone thinking of setting up an insta shop / etsy what would it be? 

Advice would be to put a clear business plan together, seek advice when you need it and believe in your yourself!

Who do you feel inspired by on Instagram? 

I’m inspired by many I can’t name just one! 

Tell us a little bit more about where you want foxsfelts to be in 5 years time?

In five years time I’d like to be running a team of five (or more) staff and turning over five times the figures I am today Amy says. 

What’s your favourite insta purchase and why?

Favourite insta purchase this year would have to be a blanket for Knox from Clem at so Satsuma @sosatsuma – they sell Handmade merino wool lusciouness 😍
Thanks to Amy for taking the time to answer our questions and you must head over to their website to see the full range of teethers on offer, we simply adore ours! 

Instagram shopping – Top buys for April

We LOVE shopping small and supporting handmade clothing online – mainly Instagram shopping. If you’ve never heard of it – then head over to instagram now and suss it out! To help you, we have put together a list of our top picks for awesome spring outfits during the month of April…

From left clockwise:- 

Spring Greens – Black and Mint long sleeved “Loved” T-Shirt from @iamloved, watercolour snood is just so pretty from @greywolf apparel matched up with these watercolour leggings from @zara from the high street.

Mamarazzi – He can’t escape the glare of my camera lately! So this T-shirt is the perfect slogan for us! available from @smallonesapparel. 

From left clockwise – Spring Greens, Mamarazzi, Whales, Cuban



Whales – The Sand colour Whale leggings from @thecottonbarn – sold out online but other colours are available! Teamed with a grey tshirt from @next and the perfect wooden camera teether is BPA free and perfect for tha tooth which is coming in – buy yours from @foxfelts.

Cuban – Hat was purchased from a Insta mum but is H&M. Shirt from @River Island and snood is handmade by @lovebeebaby. The flamingo leggings are perfect unisex and from @thecottonbarn who make amazing organic cotton kidswear to the age of 3. 

Some of the above products were sent to us for free as we are reps / ambassadors for their brand, but, just because they were free doesn’t mean we do not genuinely endorse and love them! 

Do you have any items of clothing which you recommend for spring? Care to share any style ideas with us? Then leave us a comment! 

Rebecca 

Instagram shopping – 5 Top Buys for March

If you haven’t already discovered the joys of Instagram shops then what are you waiting for. Here is out guide to our Top 10 buys on there at the moment:-

1. Flatlay Accessories – we love The Bear and the Bird for ours – these feltball garlands and clay pendants can even be customised to suit your theme!

2. Prints and T-ShirtsI am Loved stock a gorgeous array of T-Shirts and prints and they are so beautiful and unique.

3. Handmade Pram shoes – we just cannot get enough of the bunny shoes from Love Roo – inspired by the sudden passing of our old bunny we asked Aimee to make us some shoes with ears. The bunny shoes were born! They are so versatile. What combination will you choose?

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Bunny shoes by Love Roo and Leggings from The Cotton Barn

4. Organic cotton leggings and bibsThe Cotton Barn stock organic cotton items and their leggings and bibs are someone of the best around. Nandy has eczema so it’s really important that we have things which are soft against his skin and that are going to allow his skin to breathe!

5. A snoodLovebeebaby and Milk and Dagger are two shops whom stock fantastic dribble snoods! I cant get enough of them at the moment!

Thats it, our top 5 picks of March!

As the S/S17 items start to land we will post more of our favourites for you to see.